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Post by FloraTrevelyan on Nov 10, 2016 16:48:46 GMT
I'd totally echo what keebo says, if you don't click with a counsellor try to keep going until you find someone you can connect with. In my experience the dynamic between you has to be right for it to work most effectively.
Good luck to all who face these issues x
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Post by obeeky on Dec 2, 2016 14:46:38 GMT
This is about the sixth week of feeling low and not being able to get out of it. Can't say it's clinical depression because I can still laugh and see the positives in life and I am still able to go out although I am increasingly finding reasons why I shouldn't.
I am feeling stupid and useless and clumsy and hating my weight and other health issues that are affecting my enjoyment of life. I cannot motivate myself to do tasks, even things I want to do - like decorating the tree - are taking much longer than they would normally. I am frustrated and guilty. Guilty for feeling like this when my life is so easy. Frustrated that I can't do the things that need doing to enable me to move on.
It's helped to write it down.
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Post by chloena on Dec 5, 2016 13:41:26 GMT
This is about the sixth week of feeling low and not being able to get out of it. Can't say it's clinical depression because I can still laugh and see the positives in life and I am still able to go out although I am increasingly finding reasons why I shouldn't. I am feeling stupid and useless and clumsy and hating my weight and other health issues that are affecting my enjoyment of life. I cannot motivate myself to do tasks, even things I want to do - like decorating the tree - are taking much longer than they would normally. I am frustrated and guilty. Guilty for feeling like this when my life is so easy. Frustrated that I can't do the things that need doing to enable me to move on. It's helped to write it down. I often get the same at this time of year which is strange because I love Christmas. But just because you're still able to laugh and be positive doesn't mean you're not suffering with some form of depression. Look after yourself, try and keep smiling and try not to let yourself get swept into the lows and with it being over 6 weeks, perhaps see your GP? (unless you already have). I think we all feel stupid and useless and fat at times. I know I do! Love yourself, I'm sure everyone else does x
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Post by obeeky on Dec 7, 2016 23:24:54 GMT
Thank you for your reply chloena. I don't want to go on antidepressants as they stop me feeling any highs at all. And I feel that seeing as I'm doing a counselling skills course I shouldn't need to see a counsellor myself at this point. I mentioned it to my group this week and it has brought up some interesting things - like I have a need to know why I feel like this or I can't accept the feeling. It's very different from feeling a wave of grief, for example. I know what grief is and can accept that it will happen and I will feel better tomorrow.
It might be just a 'chemical imbalance' but I have trouble accepting that, even though I have had cycles of depression since I was 10. So maybe I need to find out why I can accept grief but can't accept chemical imbalance as a reason. I just need a reason...
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Post by chloena on Dec 12, 2016 10:58:06 GMT
Sometimes there isn't a reason. I've been on antidepressants since 2009 in varying doses (never changed the medication itself though) and I do have quite a reactive depression to bad situations but often I'll have dips for no reason at all. Everyone is different but I find they help a lot but I've had a lot of time to get used to them. I think of the chemical imbalance as a similarity to how diabetics need insulin. It's a chemical/hormone needed to function properly!
On the other hand, I've also found counselling very effective. Im sure they do actually advise that if you're doing a counselling course that you should have counselling yourself - because even with the skills you cant counsel yourself. Just like I'm a nurse but if I became sick I couldn't nurse myself effectively. Either way, dont struggle alone!
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Post by obeeky on Dec 21, 2016 10:55:50 GMT
As I have to pay for counselling as part of next year on the course, I was going to wait until then if I can. The worst of it has lifted during the last week and I hope it carries on in this fashion. My head feels clearer even though the motivation is still lacking. Thanks again for your comments Chloena.
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Post by chloena on Dec 23, 2016 14:15:38 GMT
I'm glad you're feeling a little better. Tis the season to be jolly after all! I dont think anyone has motivation at Christmas anyway
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2018 2:11:16 GMT
aap has a PTSD diagnosis, along with anxiety and depression. She has not been masking it for several months so it's coming out more. She is having real difficulties at the moment, crowds, noise etc. I don't know how to help her.
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Post by FloraTrevelyan on Dec 22, 2018 14:34:56 GMT
Well talking about yourself in the third person isn’t going to help. You need to really recognise what you’re doing to yourself & own it.
You know that what you do to ”mask” things is now quite literally killing you.
You also know that there are people willing to help. Seek out that help & engage with it consistently & proactively. If services are closed for Christmas then get round to your mothers to keep yourself safe.
As I’ve said to you privately, good luck.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2018 20:33:57 GMT
Had hoped for bucks fizz and bacon sarnie. Things did not pan out.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 27, 2018 23:55:23 GMT
The thread. There is not any. Fuel, good amount of. Methods, won't do that or that or that, that won't work, don't have access anymore to that, nowhere to do that from, don't want to do that, not much option
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Post by hornyvixenpart2 on Sept 16, 2019 14:09:40 GMT
Well.... Depressed or lazy I dunno... Fine line... I have had a horrible fucking time... Its like stopping smoking you either wanna stay the same or you go "nah had enough"
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Post by hornyvixenpart2 on Sept 16, 2019 14:56:41 GMT
No? F**k sake... Sigh x
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Post by hornyvixenpart2 on Sept 16, 2019 15:12:12 GMT
Yeah haha... Reality is... It sucks!
Pass me a kleenex............
Seriously its not that bad!
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